The Power of Co-Counseling
11th May 2016 by Catia Neves
I was asked if I’d like to contribute to Wellbeing Wednesday and after some thought, it occurred to me that there is something that really makes a positive difference to my overall wellbeing and outlook on life.
Re-evaluation Counseling (sometimes called Co-Counseling or RC for short) is a great place for me to share my thoughts, problems and experiences in a safe, constructive environment. It always surprises me that simply having a fellow beings honest, loving attention brings an incredible amount of gravity and power to an interaction, something that I feel is lacking in many of our lives.
Hearing others talk about their experience of life and how they see themselves within a story is a very enlightening experience that gives me a more realistic perspective on the troubles we perceive in ours.
Here is a brief description of the theory and practice of RC:
Re-evaluation Counseling is a process whereby people of all ages and of all backgrounds can learn how to exchange effective help with each other in order to free themselves from the effects of past distress experiences.
“Re-evaluation Counseling theory provides a model of what a human being can be like in the area of his/her interaction with other human beings and his/her environment. The theory assumes that everyone is born with tremendous intellectual potential, natural zest, and lovingness, but that these qualities have become blocked and obscured in adults as the result of accumulated distress experiences (fear, hurt, loss, pain, anger, embarrassment, etc.) which begin early in our lives.
Any young person would recover from such distress spontaneously by use of the natural process of emotional discharge (crying, trembling, raging, laughing, etc.). However, this natural process is usually interfered with by well-meaning people (“Don’t cry,” “Be a big boy,” etc.) who erroneously equate the emotional discharge (the healing of the hurt) with the hurt itself.
“When adequate emotional discharge can take place, the person is freed from the rigid pattern of behavior and feeling left by the hurt. The basic loving, cooperative, intelligent, and zestful nature is then free to operate. Such a person will tend to be more effective in looking out for his or her own interests and the interests of others, and will be more capable of acting successfully against injustice.”
“In recovering and using the natural discharge process, two people take turns counseling and being counseled. The one acting as the counselor listens, draws the other out and permits, encourages, and assists emotional discharge. The one acting as client talks and discharges and re-evaluates. With experience and increased confidence and trust in each other, the process works better and better.”
The power and quality of the attention that we bring during our sessions creates profound affect on our students that needs to be recognised and appreciated. I feel that it is so important for all of us to make time in our lives to give and receive unconditional positive regard for our fellow man and work towards a world where it isn’t a big deal to talk about our lives emotionally.
RC is an international organisation that is working towards a world where we can live using our full intelligence by breaking the patterns of oppression that cause us to live in an often irrational and reactionary manner. If anyone would like to find out more about RC then please feel free to contact me or check out the website https://www.rc.org.